5 Secrets For Improving Your Relationships
It’s no big surprise that relationships are a key part of the human experience. Sometimes though, I think we get so caught up in the drama surrounding us that we forget how much influence we actually have on how other people treat us.
Typically, when we find ourselves in a relationship we don’t like, one of 3 things will happen –
You or the other person figure out a way to end the relationship
One of you takes it upon yourself to fix it
You or the other person try to pretend things are fine when they are not
Unfortunately, far too many people live in #3 where they have slipped into ‘toleration’ mode, hating to be around the other person, avoiding them, wishing they would smarten up or even disappear.
This is not a happy place to be and I feel for you if that’s your current experience.
On top of that, even if you opted for #1 and ended an undesirable relationship it’s quite likely that this relationship will keep resurfacing, or you will attract a new person into your life who is causing the same problem.
On the other hand, if you put option 2 into place and take it upon yourself to fix the relationship – by seeking counselling, reading books, taking a course or through trial and error on your own – you will find that person quietly drifts out of your life; stays in your life but completely stops bothering you; or, and this is the ideal outcome, becomes one of your strongest relationships.
Your relationships are in your life for a reason and when you can figure out a way to learn the lesson and move on, life will become much easier.
So today, I want to share 5 secrets I have learned that can help you improve all of your relationships – whether they are troublesome or trouble free; significant or more distant – so that you can stop any repeating cycles and love your life.
To use this information most effectively, it would be best for you to think of a troubling relationship that you are currently experiencing and use it to apply what I’m sharing. If you can’t think of one, then feel free to use one from your past that still feels a bit unsettling.
One quick note, before I begin, if you are dealing with a person who is mentally unstable – especially if they lack the ability to empathize or feel remorse, you can still use the information to heal yourself, but building a relationship will be a challenge. In the end, if it is a relationship you can leave, that might be the answer.
My point is, please don’t take this information to mean that every relationship can be fixed…many are in your life to teach you something and once you get it, you can move on to a happier circumstance.
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