Originally Posted as: "Divine Energies" [December, 2017]
Today I'm going to tackle the big and important topic of Divine energies.
Talking about the Divine Masculine and Feminine is different than talking about gender, but because they intertwine so completely and our society has developed such strong opinions around these qualities it has become a bit confusing to unravel.
What's important to me is that you understand I am not trying to put anyone into a box and suggest that if they are male, female, transgender or would describe themselves in any other way, that what I am saying must apply to them whether they want it to or not. Please hear what I am saying with an open mind and heart so you can pick out the pieces that will have the greatest influence on your life today and start using the information to become more aware.
A big part of being a vibrant, powerful BEING, is self-awareness, and these divine energies have a huge influence on how we can thrive in this world.
I like to think of the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine as two energies that dance together to make a complete and beautiful picture. One is not better than the other except perhaps in how it applies to any moment in time. When the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine are properly balanced they allow you to live life to its fullest potential in every way.
All people need to access both of these energies in order to live a balanced, healthy and productive life. The amount they need will vary by person, circumstance, and even by current focus, but they both come into play for all of us.
I often use the analogy of a river to show people what I mean. Picture a river and for a few moments just focus on the water itself. What is it like?
When I ask this question to a group I am working with I typically get responses like…It's yielding, refreshing, nurturing, playful, fierce, life giving, creative, beautiful, fun…which all happen to be Divine Feminine qualities.
Now think about the river bed…the rock or earth that guides the river. What words might you use to describe it? Structured, focused, guiding, protective, strong, in-charge, productive; are the answers I receive…these describe the Divine Masculine.
Picture either of these without the other and what do you have?
A riverbed without the water is meaningless. It has nothing to guide, protect, focus on…there is no reason for that riverbed to exist. The water without the riverbed is a swamp or a flood. Picture a field with many little puddles all evaporating because they were not contained or held together in a way that allowed them to function. These puddles become stagnant and disappear without support.
The water needs the riverbed and the riverbed needs the water
Masculine energy: plan, provide, produce, protect, results focused, honour, respect, guiding, courageous, independent, strong, decisive, stable/calm, in-charge, intellectual, competitive, linear, left brain, yang. Outward focused; Ruled by thoughts; Recharged by achievement… DoingFeminine energy: soft, nurturing, creative, fertile, flowing, open/receiving, unpredictable, flexible, wild/fierce, bubbly/playful, beautiful, wisdom/intuition, collaboration, cyclical, right brain, yin. Inward focused; Ruled by emotions; Recharged by pleasure… Being
Notice…It is the feminine side that opens you up to receive, fully engage in pleasure, build powerful relationships with others, be compassionate and release your optimal creativity. It’s worthwhile for all of us to embrace the feminine.
What's our reality?
Think about our current success model…what kinds of things are valued in our society?
Competition, goals, produce, profit, independence, protect, results, deadlines … all masculine!
Our society has raised us to value our masculine and has labeled much of the feminine as weak or unnecessary. As a result,things like pleasure, emotion, compassion, nurturance, collaboration (which could also be called interdependence – when people work harmoniously together) are devalued, downplayed or ditched.
As well, when people are unbalanced we often get what's called distorted energy – so distorted masculine becomes ego driven or self-focused, competition leads to 'dog eat dog' thinking, confidence becomes aggression, scarcity mentality is predominant, etc.
This worshiping of the divine masculine, tolerance for the distorted masculine and disregard for the feminine has thrown our systems way off kilter leaving most people confused about what the problem is never mind how to fix it.
Some of the symptoms of a society that's out of balance are: people feeling burnt-out, disconnected, or dissatisfied with life despite what looks like a great life; relationships falling apart as two imbalanced people try to make thin
gs to work (I get a visual for this one of two people sitting on the same side of the teeter-totter and wondering why it's no fun!); health issues like crazy – especially things like auto-immune diseases and chronic fatigue…
Just a quick note: This is not about blaming anyone or anything for our imbalance. We've all had a hand in creating it and continuing to perpetuate it. If you really want to make a difference tell your Ego to sit and focus on what you can do to make positive changes from here.
We have a very real problem that will not go away on its own.
It's time for us to take action and start rebalancing things – for your own happiness, your kids future, our survival as a species – choose whichever speaks the loudest to you (or make up your own good reason).
Even though we are talking about Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine energies this is not a gender issue. Both men and women need to draw on their masculine and feminine energies in a dance that works for them.
Where do you start?
There is no fixed way to start rebalancing yourself, as we are all in different places on our journey, so listen to the podcast to find out some of my favorite starting points.
A woman spending too much time in her masculine will typically feel drained, unfulfilled or depressed (often despite great success) and may struggle with issues such as being considered a control-freak, perfectionist or just down-right scary. If you are experiencing any of these, don't wait for a diagnosis, burn out or relationship breakdown to motivate you to change. Start with a couple of things that truly bring you pleasure and make them a priority. I can help with this if you feel guidance would be helpful. Set up a discovery call today and we'll explore it together.