Overcoming Common Parenting Challenges
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Name-calling Rule: If you call someone a name (insult, putdown, joke, etc), you must say two nice things about that person to help build him or her back up.
Enforce this calmly and consistently and watch the insults decrease and relationships grow.
Do-over Option: If your (pre)teen says something rude, mean, or otherwise distasteful to you, ask them if they'd like a do-over.
Basically, this is a quick, calm way to say, "what you just did/said is about to result in negative consequences, since we all mess up sometimes and allow our emotions to dictate our response, would you like a chance to fix that?"
If they take the opportunity and do/say things in a more positive way (even if it is through gritted teeth), pretend the offense never happened and respond in a positive way.
Temper Tantrums: A person throwing a temper-tantrum isn’t able to listen to reason at that moment. If you can stay calm, enforce boundaries and wait for it to pass you’ll have a much greater chance of coming out unscathed.
Help your child learn how to release emotions in a healthy way and take self-imposed time outs when they are headed into a rage and you will have instilled an important life skill.
Barbara Coloroso, Kids Are Worth It!
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